Career Crossroads
The oldest of Generation X are turning 50 years of age, and many of them are at career crossroads!
I am encountering many older Gen Xers who are questioning their career path (just like baby boomers who started doing this 10 years ago).
In facing career crossroads, they are asking the same questions that baby boomers did, but for different reasons.
Generation X Characteristics
Those who I see encountering these career crossroads have the following characteristics:
- Raised in single-parent households – Almost half of generation X were raised in single-parent households. Among those who are at career crossroads, there are almost as many who were raised by their fathers as by their mothers.
- Education was seen as a gateway to success and happiness – Almost all thought that, when they completed their degrees, they would get great jobs and achieve happiness. Many achieved the first goal but not the second.
- Single, unhappily married or divorced – Because they were career driven, many delayed marriage. This is almost equally true of men and women. Those that are married, reaching a career crossroads is hazardous to their marriages.
(More: Gen X and Y – Like Oil and Water?
Why are Career Crossroads Appearing Now?
Most baby boomers can relate to why now. Whether you call it a mid-life crisis or just reaching your 40s, it is about expectations of what could or should have been.
After working for 15 or 20 years, there was a certain expectation of success and happiness. Many who have been coming to me have the success, but not the happiness.
Others have had success, got married late, had children late, and now have obligations that put serious constraints on their career. Do they continue to climb the corporate ladder or jump off and experience life?
Career Crossroads Example
I had one female client who was an executive in her 40s—brilliant, successful and single. She stated that she needed a non-working husband to take care of life chores, just as her male counterparts had non-working wives. Her work demanded 60 plus hours every week. She was exhausted from the politics.
Instead, she decided to find a job that was more fulfilling and less demanding. She found that climbing the corporate ladder did not bring happiness.
Sound familiar?
(More: Knowing When Your Career Tank is on Empty)
Generation X versus Baby Boomers Career Crossroads
These older Gen Xers entered the workforce in the late 1980s or early 1990s. This was when the idea of working for one employer was ending (I was at IBM in 1993 when they ended the no-layoff policy). They had no illusion that their employer would take care of them. Therefore, many drove for career success in lieu of having a personal life. They delayed marriage and children. They thought that, if they worked hard, success and happiness would come. After they were successful and happy, they would get married and have kids.
I was like most baby boomers. I went to college, got a job with a large father-like company (IBM), got married, had children, and would work until I retired. Work was not supposed to bring happiness. What I earned was supposed to bring happiness. In other words, stuff was supposed to bring happiness!
Approaching Career Crossroads
The great recession and the new economy has caused many in all generations to approach career crossroads. Do you:
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- Blindly follow a career path to earn a living and hope happiness will follow?
- Pursue monetary success and think happiness will flow from that success?
- Follow your passion to attain happiness and the monetary success that will follow?
Baby boomers followed path #1.
Generation Xers followed path #2.
Generation Y, who happen to be baby boomers kids, are following path #3.
All three paths are flawed.
These are my observations? What do you see?
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Hi Mark,
Your article really hit home with me– I recently turned 50 and have definitely reached a career crossroads. Actually this “mid-life crisis” of sorts started gradually happening in my forties and things really took a turn for the worse nearly 2 years ago when my marriage / relationship of 14 years ended abruptly. Since the divorce, I have run out of energy; I have simply lost my passion for the work I was doing before. My last full time staff job was 15 years ago and I have been self employed ever since. My marriage and my career were somewhat intertwined since we met on the job and were in the same industry. She was a self-employed freelancer, as I later became, and some of my success in my own business was thanks to her encouragement. However, now all that is gone and so is my will to continue in this business venture as well the field that I’ve been working in since college.
I have considered going back to school (to pursue a certain childhood passion), though at this point, with the high cost of re-entering college plus the high cost of living this really doesn’t seem feasible. But as you’ve said in some of your other articles, sometimes you just have to do something– to just start moving in some sort of a direction. I have tried to do that with this particular passion, and despite attempting to put as much time and energy into it as possible, I see that it is a young man’s game. Even though the field is somewhat similar to my current career, there is still so much new to learn. I don’t know if I can even keep up with all the young people flooding into this particular industry, who are fresh out of school willing to work incredibly long hours for very little pay. And unfortunately, it is also very location-specific, which would require a long distance move I have been somewhat reluctant to make. Add to that the fact that this industry is also having its own problems overall right now as well. So it seems as if I am pursuing this one-and-only passion twenty years too late!
Is there anything else you can recommend to do in order to become un-stuck and to help find a new path?
Thank you!
Mike
Mike,
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